Nowadays, single-parent households are quickly becoming a norm. Gone are the days when single parents would be “stigmatized” for lack of a better word. Many people have been raised by a single parent, especially a single mother. The latest findings cite that 25% of people are now raised in a single-parent setup and the statistics keep rising.
Notable people like rapper Tupac Shakur, former President Barak Obama, Hollywood actress Halle Berry, and Olympic swimmer and gold-winner, Michael Phelps, are great examples of children raised by single mothers.
Let’s get deep into the subject and look at ways in which one can become the best version of themselves as a parent.
Though single parents come from many different backgrounds, their economic, educational, and social status don’t necessarily determine their success at raising children.
If you find yourself in such a scenario, what can you do to better the parenting experience for you and your child(ren)?
- Accept Responsibility
Accept the situation for what it is. Make peace with the fact that things could have been way worse, for you and them, were you to remain in a toxic or unfulfilling union.
That way you’ll have more time and mental space to figure out how to move forward instead of being bitter about the situation.
2. Clear Out Expectations
By making clear duties and responsibilities, you conclude what to expect from your co-parent (if they are an active parent) and vice-versa. This frees all of you to resentment where one feels overwhelmed. If you are alone, extend yourself some grace.
The child will have an easy time coping when things are running smoothly and everyone is pulling their own weight.
3. Ask For Help
Things can fall through the cracks time and again. It’s normal even for a two-parent household. Don’t beat yourself up so hard and be open to help from trusted friends or family.
People who are rooting for you, all want the best for the child and you’d come back stronger and stable. Help can include financial, psychological, or physical. Remember, you need to replenish your energy by sharing the load where needed.
4. Plan Ahead
Knowing that you only have yourself will keep your survival instincts alert. Set a rainy day account for your child to cater for emergencies like medical treatment and future savings.
This will be a safety net in case something unplanned occurs. You need peace of mind knowing that your child’s future is safe.
